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25 Nov 2015

Imagination, Creativity, Experience and Failure

On Imagination...

Imagination


“Don’t trust a brilliant idea unless it survives the hangover.” ~ Jimmy Breslin


“Blessed are the curious, for they shall have adventures.” ~ L. Drachman


“Inspiration comes of working every day.” ~ Charles Baudelaire


“There are no rules here. We’re trying to accomplish something.” ~ Thomas Edison


“If I’m going to sing like someone else, then I don’t need to sing at all.” ~ Billie Holiday


“This world is but a canvas to our imagination.” ~ Thoreau


“Go to where the silence is and say something.” ~ Amy Goodman


“I love those who yearn for the impossible.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


“There are always flowers for those who want to see them.” ~ Henri Matisse


“The artist is a receptacle for emotions that come from all over the place: from the sky, from the earth, from a scrap of paper, from a passing shape, from a spider’s web. ” ~ Pablo Picasso


“Reality is whatever refuses to go away when I stop believing in it.” ~ Philip K. Dick


“I would challenge you to a battle of wits, but I see you are unarmed!” ~ William Shakespeare


“I shut my eyes in order to see.” ~ Paul Gauguin


“To imagine is everything, to know is nothing at all.” ~ Anatole France


“You need not leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. You need not even listen, simply wait, just learn to become quiet, and still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.” ~ Kafka


“Silence is the mother of truth” ~ Benjamin Disraeli


“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” ~ Thoreau


“No artist tolerates reality.” ~ Nietzsche


“Who looks outside, dreams… who looks inside, awakes.” ~ Carl Jung


“Think outside the box, collapse the box, and take a fucking sharp knife to it.” ~ Banksy


“Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads” ~ Erica Jong




On Creativity...





“Dance first, think later” ~ Samuel Beckett


“The thing about creativity is, people are going to laugh at it. Get over it.” ~ Twyla Tharp


“Inspiration exists, but it has to find you working.” ~ Pablo Picasso


“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” ~ Coco Chanel


“Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ~ Howard Thurman


“Inspiration comes and goes, creativity is the result of practice.” ~ Phil Cousineau


“Go where the silence is and say something.” ~ Amy Goodman


“Creativity is a type of learning process where teacher and pupil are located in the same individual.” ~ Arthur Koestler


“Any activity becomes creative when the doer cares about doing it right or better.” ~ John Updike


“Sometimes you gotta create what you want to be part of.” ~ Geri Weitzman


“The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones.” ~ John Maynard Keynes


“Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity. It’s self-conscious, and anything self-conscious is lousy. You can’t try to do things. You simply must do things.” ~ Ray Bradbury


“To copy the truth can be a good thing, but to invent the truth is better, much better.” ~ Giuseppe Verdi


“Creativity is an act of defiance.” ~ Twyla Tharp


“Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.” ~ Anne Sexton


“It’s not where you take things from — it’s where you take them to.” ~ Jean-Luc Godard


“Creativity is the sudden cessation of stupidity.” ~ Edwin Land


“The ability to dream is all I have to give. That is my responsibility; that is my burden.” ~ Harlan Ellison


“Painting is poetry that is seen rather than felt, and poetry is painting that is felt rather than seen.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci


“The enemy of art is the absence of limitations.” ~ Orson Welles


“You don’t make art, you find it” ~ Pablo Picasso


“Creativity is essentially a lonely art. An even lonelier struggle. To some a blessing. To others a curse. It is in reality the ability to reach inside yourself and drag forth from your very soul an idea.” ~ Lou Dorfsman


“The chief enemy of creativity is good sense.” ~ Pablo Picasso


“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ~ G.B. Shaw


“Everything’s already been said, but since nobody was listening, we have to start again.” ~ André Gide


“Creativity takes courage.” ~ Henri Matisse


“Everyone must leave something behind when he dies, my grandfather said. A child or a book or a painting or a house or a wall built or a pair of shoes made. Or a garden planted. Something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die, and when people look at that tree or that flower you planted, you’re there. It doesn’t matter what you do, he said, so long as you change something from the way it was before you touched it into something that’s like you after you take your hands away. The difference between the man who just cuts lawns and a real gardener is in the touching, he said. The lawn-cutter might just as well not have been there at all; the gardener will be there a lifetime.” ~ Ray Bradbury


“I’ll be more enthusiastic about encouraging thinking outside the box when there’s evidence of any thinking going on inside it.” ~ Terry Pratchett


“How we spend our days is how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour and with that one, is what we are doing.” ~ Annie Dillard


“Creativity is intelligence having fun.” ~ Albert Einstein


“I invent nothing, I rediscover.” ~ Auguste Rodin


“To draw, you must close your eyes and sing” ~ Pablo Picasso


“If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing.” ~ Marc Chagall


“Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth.” ~ Rumi


“Find something only you can say” ~ James Dickey


“Creativity is not the finding of a thing, but the making something out of it after it is found.” ~ James Russell Lowell


“Free your mind and your ass will follow” ~ George Clinton


“Art is not about thinking something up. It is the opposite–getting something down.” ~ Julia Cameron


“Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.” ~ Scott Adams



On Experience...




“To practice any art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow. So do it.” ~ Kurt Vonnegut


“The scariest moment is always just before you start.” ~ Stephen King


“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” ~ William Butler Yeats


“Learn from yesterday, live for today, look to tomorrow, rest this afternoon.” ~ Charles M. Schulz


“I can’t go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.” ~ Lewis Carroll


“Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.” ~ Auguste Rodin


“You don’t have to say everything to say something.” ~ Beth Moore


“Get it down. Take chances. It may be bad, but it’s the only way you can do anything really good.” ~ William Faulkner


“The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.” ~ W. M. Lewis.


“Sometimes painful things can teach us lessons that we didn’t think we needed to know.” ~ Amy Poehler


“You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” ~ André Gide


“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~ Jung


“Some of us have great runways already built for us. If you have one, take off. But if you don’t have one, realize it is your responsibility to grab a shovel and build one for yourself and for those who will follow after you.” ~ Amelia Earhart


“Every moment and every event of every man’s life on earth plants something in his soul.” ~ Thomas Merton


“Don’t think about making art, just get it done. Let everyone else decide if it’s good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. While they are deciding, make even more art.” ~ Andy Warhol


“When you play, never mind who listens to you.” ~ Robert Schumann


“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci


“Everything that we encounter leaves traces behind. Everything contributes imperceptibly to our education” ~ Goethe


“Go and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here. Make. Good. Art.” ~ Neil Gaiman


“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.” ~ Pema Chödrön


“Any idiot can face a crisis; it’s this day-to-day living that wears you out.” ~ Anton Chekhov


“The lessons you are meant to learn are in your work. To see them, you need only look at the work clearly — without judgment, without need or fear, without wishes or hopes. Without emotional expectations. Ask your work what it needs, not what you need. Then set aside your fears and listen, the way a good parent listens to a child” ~ David Bayles


“Everything in life comes to you as a teacher. Pay Attention. Learn Quickly.” ~ Cherokee saying


“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.

Life is beauty, admire it.

Life is a dream, realize it.

Life is a challenge, meet it.

Life is a duty, complete it.

Life is a game, play it.

Life is a promise, fulfill it.

Life is sorrow, overcome it.

Life is a song, sing it.

Life is a struggle, accept it.

Life is a tragedy, confront it.

Life is an adventure, dare it.

Life is luck, make it.

Life is life, fight for it.”

~ Mother Teresa


“You may not be a Picasso or Mozart but you don’t have to be. Just create to create. Create to remind yourself you’re still alive. Make stuff to inspire others to make something too. Create to learn a bit more about yourself.” ~ Frederick Terral


“We are not on this earth to accumulate victories, things, and experiences, but to be whittled and sandpapered until what’s left is who we truly are.” ~ Arianna Huffington


“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in – forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” ~ Emerson


“There is nothing like looking, if you want to find something. You certainly usually find something, if you look, but it is not always quite the something you were after.” ~ J.R.R. Tolkien


“The reward of art is not fame or success but intoxication.” ~ Cyril Connolly


“Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate, or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. What seems nasty, painful, or evil, can become a source of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.” ~ Henry Miller


”The seed of your next artwork lies embedded in the imperfections of your current piece.” ~ David Bayles


“Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.” ~ Jimi Hendrix


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On Failure...


“An artist cannot fail; it is a success to be one.” ~ Charles Horton Cooley


“You have to know how to accept rejection and reject acceptance.” ~ Ray Bradbury


“Mistakes are the portals of discovery” ~ James Joyce


“Work like hell! I had 122 rejection slips before I sold a story.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald


“Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo.” ~ Jon Sinclair


“To try and fail is at least to learn. To fail to try is to suffer the loss of what might have been.” ~ Benjamin Franklin


“A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.” ~ John Burroughs


“Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself.” ~ Charlie Chaplin


“I love sleep. My life has the tendency to fall apart when I’m awake, you know?” ~ Ernest Hemingway


Life’s like a movie, write your own ending. Keep believing, keep pretending.” ~ Jim Henson


”It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work, and then we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey.” ~ Wendell Berry


“It’s better to fail in originality, than succeed in imitation.” ~ Herman Melville


“I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.” ~ Augusten Burroughs


“Some succeed because they are destined. Some succeed because they are determined.” ~ Unknown


“Life isn’t fair, it’s just fairer than death, that’s all.” ~ William Goldman


“Life is pretty simple: You do some stuff. Most fails. Some works. You do more of what works. If it works big, others quickly copy it. Then you do something else. The trick is the doing something else.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci


“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~ Lao Tzu


“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” ~ Douglas Adams


“Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale


“I would rather die of passion than of boredom.” ~ Vincent van Gogh


“Whether you succeed or not is irrelevant, there is no such thing. Making your unknown known is the important thing.” ~ Georgia O’Keeffe


“Do not fear mistakes—there are none.” ~ Miles Davis


“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~ Khalil Gibran


“You should keep on painting no matter how difficult it is, because this is all part of experience, and the more experience you have, the better it is…unless it kills you, and then you know you have gone too far.” ~ Alice Neel


“Fail, fail again, fail better” ~ Samuel Beckett

12 Nov 2015

Rapport - Matching & Mirroring, Pacing & Leading

Rapport is when we seem to "just hit it off" with another person; when we click (Kinesthetic) and "see eye to eye" (Visual), etc. It is when we feel like the other person is like us. This is what we mean when we say "I like it" or "I like him/her". It means that that thing or person is like us. The word Like is a simile. A simile is a figure of speech that directly compares two things through the explicit use of connecting words (such as like, as, so, than, or various verbs such as resemble).


We can use certain tools to be more liked by other people, and also to understand them more. We do this by literally copying their behaviours and mannerisms. Establishing and building rapport is very effective for therapy.

Pacing and Matching 
(subtle mimicry)

For: building rapport, empathy and awareness of peoples subconscious communications & important for modelling. It involves integrating various elements of their habitual style into your own for therapeutic purposes, making them feel comfortable and understood.

How: match body language and speech (VAKOG predicates) - see Lexical Predicates

Matching is different to mirroring because it has more vague imitation and is less specific/exact.

Mimicry is the opposite of standing out; it is blending in, like camouflage.

Mirror




Behavioural Mirroring 
aka Reading People 
(self-inducing their state)

How: match behaviors that are mostly subconscious and symbolic; postures, breathing (can be done by tapping the fingers in the same rythym), facial expressions connecting things in peoples personalities (Patrick Jane does this often in the TV show The Mentalist, and also Cal Lightman in the show Lie To Me.)

There is a scene in the movie The Librarian: Quest For The Spear in which the main character is applying to become a librarian, and the interviewer at this point has seen many more potential candidates, all of which failed, and so she says to him "Tell me something you know that nobody else who has walked in here could tell me."

He proceeds as follows...

"You have mononucleosis. Your marriage broke up two months ago, you broke your nose when you were ...
... and you live with three cats. Is that what you had in mind? Swollen parajugular lymph nodes and distended eyelids are clearly mono. It takes three months for an indentation on the ring finger to completely disappear. Yours is approximately two-thirds gone. Your surgeon gave you a terminus para-lateral scar...
... which is given to children under the age of... 

And I can clearly see three distinct types of cat hair. A white Himalayan, a tortoiseshell and an orange-striped tabby."


In short, he read her, connecting all the things in her "Symbolic Behaviours". This is called behavioural mirroring.

All this information was on or around her body. He could have pointed out a lot more, and we can all do this. It just takes practice and a trained awareness. Having Low Latent Inhibition helps massively with being aware of all the little nuances and subtle cues in peoples behavior, including the tiniest movements, breathing, tonality, rate and pitch of speech, etc.


I recommend reading these books on reading body language:





Autistic people (specifically the "high functioning" ones) struggle with mirroring and establishing empathy because they have less mirror neurons, which are responsible for mimicry/modelling. It is a much more conscious process for them, and more instinctual for the average person. This is why people who experience symptoms of Autism appear to lack empathy, or are unaware other peoples feelings. But it's not that they lack these things, it's just that it's much more difficult for them to process their reality in this way, so that means it's the people without Autism that have to match and mirror them, building rapport to accommodate their needs.

Read More about Mirror Neurons.




"The sage has no interest of his own, but takes the interests of the people as his own. He is kind to the kind; he is also kind to the unkind: for Virtue is kind. He is faithful to the faithful; he is also faithful to the unfaithful: for Virtue is faithful." - Lao Tzu

"Regard your neighbor's gain as your own gain, and your neighbor's loss as your own loss." - Lao Tzu

Imitation and mimicry are very natural, and our brains are designed to notice differences for survival purposes. When we do it consciously - as in therapy - we can generate much better outcomes than if we didn't, for non-verbal communication makes up about 93% of communication. The other 7% is words.

Note: Do not mirror or pace peoples suffering; stick with general physical and symbolic behaviours. If you were to pace an asthmatics breathing, you'd find yourself struggling to breathe, and that's no good. A bit of genuine empathy is more than enough for establishing and building rapport.

Pacing and Leading 
(sales)

Pace by building rapport/matching or mirroring, and then lead them somewhere else/into another state - a positive one. Only match positive body language, or match negative postures, but then gradually/subtly change to positive ones. E.G. from crossed arms to open, literally making them more emotionally open and comfortable.

Match negatives by sharing resentments you have in common, e.g. "Yeah, I hate that too" etc. and then lead out of by saying "but... "

"I hate X just as much as you do, but I would rather focus on the things that I like and love because that makes me feel better, and what I feel is my choice. So my question for you is: by adopting your thoughts and feelings in all things related to X, what do I get out of it? How does it help me? In what way does it directly improve my life? How does it contribute to me experiencing the things I want to experience?"


Other examples of mimicry, matching and mirroring.

Pets (specifically dogs) that look like their owners.

Similarity



Ladybug






The Lyre Bird



Parrots


When clock pendulums swing out of synch become synchronized and swing at the exact same rhythm.

Women who have their periods at the same time (but only when they're around each other.)

And many, many more. Mimicry is the basis of Modelling (in NLP), and therefore of learning. It is directly connected to the As-If Pattern, also known as "fake it 'till you make it."

"We are all what we pretend to be, so, we had better be very careful what we pretend"
- Kurt Vonnegut


A great deal can be learnt about matching & mirroring, pacing & leading and Meta Programs in Shelle Rose Charvet's book Words That Change Minds.